The 9-Step Program to Reignite Passion
and Transform Your Relationship
The 9-Step Program to Reignite Passion
and Transform Your Relationship
Resources to Rebuild Relationship Intimacy and Passion
Why does anyone need intimacy "resources" anyway?
It helps to remember that intimacy is like a living organism. It thrives when it has the right conditions, and withers when it doesn't. There is no "permanent" switch that keeps it intact forever.
Sustaining real intimacy takes ongoing attention and commitment. It also helps when you have a good "toolkit" you can turn to when you notice the spark is fading again. Because it will eventually. It's part of the natural cycle of life.
With this in mind, in addition to the full Reigniting Passion program, we have curated some resources to help you on your journey. Feel free to suggest your favorites for future inclusion.
Free Downloads: Guides and Quizzes
What's Blocking Intimacy in Your Relationship?
This 2-minute gentle self-reflection quiz will help you understand what’s really getting in the way of closeness in your relationship—without blame or pressure. So you can rekindle the spark! Download >>
Intimacy Reconnection Guide: A 5-Day Path
A 15-minute start to a therapist-designed 5-day reconnecting plan. For couples who love each other and want to rebuild closeness, warmth and intimacy—without pressure, conflict or overwhelm. Download >>
From Roommates to Lovers:
A Roadmap for Couples
A 15-minute overview that explains what happened, why and what you need to do to rebuild the intimacy and excitement. Perfect for couples who decide to work on their relationship and restore their connection. Download >>
Hidden Passion Inhibitors Explained
A guide for couples who want to rekindle the romantic spark. In around 15 minutes, discover the hidden emotional and relational patterns that quietly affect openness, connection, and desire—and how to begin changing them. Download >>
Recommended Videos
The Real Reason the Spark Fades (& How to Fix It)
This video examines one of the most misunderstood aspects of long-term relationships: why the spark slowly diminishes over time. You'll discover that passion doesn't usually disappear because love has ended—it changes because the conditions that once created emotional intensity gradually evolve.
7 Signs You're Becoming Roommates
Dr. Barbara and Tim walk through seven common signs that a loving relationship may be shifting away from emotional connection and toward simply managing life together. The goal isn't to create alarm—it's to help you recognize these patterns early, while they're still easy to change.
How to Rebuild a Relationship That Feels Stuck
Explores why many long-term relationships begin to feel "stuck" and, more importantly, how couples can begin moving forward again. You'll discover that feeling stuck doesn't necessarily mean your relationship is failing. More often, it means growth has quietly been replaced by routine--and how to change this.
The Small Daily Habits that Bring Couples Closer
In long-term relationships, it's often the small things couples do—or stop doing—every day that gradually shape how connected they feel. In this video, we explore seven small daily habits that can help couples interrupt emotional autopilot and create more opportunities for closeness and intimacy.
Why Desire Changes in
Long-Term Relationships
In this video, we explore why desire changes in long-term relationships, how familiarity and routine can affect attraction, why pressure can make desire harder to access, and how couples can begin creating conditions where intimacy feels more natural.
Why Couples Slowly Stop Flirting With Each Other
Tim and Barbara explore why flirting fades—and why bringing it back isn't about trying to recreate the beginning of your relationship. It's about noticing each other again, creating anticipation, and making room for playful romantic connection without pressure.
The Small Sign Emotional Distance is Growing
This video looks at one of those early signs of emotional distance and why noticing it can matter. When couples begin to feel less connected, the change may show up in everyday interactions long before either person feels thinks of the relationship as “in trouble.”
Why Loving Couples Some-times Stop Wanting Intimacy
Emotional distance and other factors can gradually affect how open and relaxed each partner feels around intimacy. Discover why loving couples sometimes stop wanting intimacy, and why pressure often makes the problem worse rather than better.
Articles and Posts
How to Reignite Passion in a Relationship
By Dr. Barbara Molle. Discover how to reignite passion in a relationship with simple ways to bring back excitement, intimacy, playfulness, and desire in long-term love. How to make it hotter and more fun!
Emotional Disconnection in Marriage: Causes and Reconnecting
By Dr. Barbara Molle. Emotional disconnection in marriage often develops quietly over time. Learn why couples drift apart emotionally and how to reconnect with your spouse again.
How to Feel Emotionally Connected Again
By Dr. Barbara Molle. Learn how to reconnect emotionally with your spouse through small, meaningful changes that rebuild closeness, affection, curiosity, and connection.
The Benefits of Mindfulness
By Daphne M. Davis, PhD, and Jeffrey A. Hayes, PhD. A wealth of new research has explored this age-old practice. Here's a look at its benefits for both clients and psychologists.
Active Listening Skills
Harvard-trained expert shares her No. 1 strategy for getting people to trust you. An article by Ashton Jackson interviewing sustainable leadership advisor Yasmene Mumby.
The Benefits of Physical Touch...
Touch can reduce pain, depression and anxiety, say researchers. It can help to reduce the effects of pain, depression and anxiety, offering both physical and emotional benefits.
Understanding Triggers
Katherine Ponte, JD, MBA, CPRP, is an award‑winning mental health advocate, author, nonprofit leader, and Assistant Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at the Yale School of Medicine writes about these links to past traumas or distressing experiences.
Goal Setting for Couples...
Goal setting is a powerful tool for couples who want to strengthen their bond, create shared meaning, and build a fulfilling life together. By goal setting together, you’ll be well-equipped to navigate the challenges that come your way as a team.
Growing Apart in Marriage: Why It Happens
Why do couples grow apart in marriage and long-term relationships, even when they still love each other? Learn what causes distance in marriage and how couples can reconnect after growing apart.
Recommended Books
The Art of Sexual Ecstasy
By Margo Anand
A practical introduction to Western Tantra that teaches couples how to use breath, presence, and energy awareness to deepen intimacy and transform sex into a mindful, connected experience.
Intimacy and Desire
By Dr. David Schnarch
Schnarch reframes desire struggles as opportunities for personal and relational growth. He introduces concepts like differentiation to help couples strengthen emotional maturity and rekindle erotic connection.
Body, Self & Soul: Sustaining Integration
By Jack Lee Rosenberg and Marjorie Rand
An exploration of Integrative Body Psychotherapy, showing how emotional patterns, bodily tension, and early experiences shape the self — and how reconnecting body and mind supports healing and growth.
People Skills
By Robert Bolton
A practical communication guide focused on active listening, assertiveness, and conflict resolution. It breaks down the habits that block connection and teaches skills that build trust and clarity.
Slow Sex
By Diana Richardson
A gentle, Tantric‑inspired approach to sexuality that encourages slowing down, relaxing, and shifting from performance to presence — creating deeper pleasure and emotional closeness.
Touching: The Human Significance of Skin
By Ashley Montague
Touch can reduce pain, depression and anxiety, say researchers. It can help to reduce the effects of pain, depression and anxiety, offering both physical and emotional benefits.
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